I lose a little bit every day. The key for me though is to try and trim back those losses every chance I get. There is power living in the aggregate NO. Let me explain.
Aggregate: Formed or calculated by the combination of many separate units or items; total. “The aggregate amount of dollars saved.”
I’ve realized that strengthening my ability to say NO is like a muscle. It starts out weak, but over time the more I try to say NO to things, the better I get at doing it. The better I get, the more powerful the word becomes when I pit it against something I know I shouldn’t be doing.
That feels a lot like magic to me. It’s fascinating to think that language can sometimes produce magical outcomes. The words we say to ourself and the words we say to other people can cast a spell onto them; onto ourselves. A thought can create an idea and once we speak the idea out into the universe we bring life to it. And it can affect who we think we are. It can also affect how other people feel about themselves. That is powerful.
Magic: Techniques that presumably assure human control of supernatural agencies. Any extraordinary or mystical influence, charm, or power. “The magic of music, the magic of spring”
The only way to begin this experiment is by trying it as often as possible regardless of outcome. REGARDLESS OF OUTCOME. I want to emphasize that because people for some strange reason look to prove good ideas wrong without giving them time to succeed.
Remember, the aim is to start saying NO in aggregate and over time, allowing it to influence the decisions we make.
This is how we win the war...knowing that some battles will be lost along the way.
Here are some examples:
At some point, we all take a hard look at our lives and our decisions and start thinking about how we can get a little better than we are in that dark moment. The best place to start, is strengthening our ability to SAY NO.